Mary Dow Meyer

Mary Dow Meyer, nee Mary Drummond Dow, daughter of Mary Campbell and Howard Dow, died at home in Scottsdale, Ariz., on Feb. 16, 2014, of dementia-related causes.

The last surviving and youngest of four siblings: James Gordon Taylor, Helen Dow Lundquist, nee Helen Aitken Dow, and Charles Mason Dow. She is survived by her daughter Christiane Dow Freer-Parsons, Scottsdale, Ariz., and grandson, William Graeme Parsons, Reno, Nev. Additional survivors include nephews and nieces: Courtland Kelsey III, Howard Dow Kelsey, Elizabeth Anne Lundquist Dauber, Mary Laurie Lundquist Collins, David Clark Taylor, and Ellie Taylor Cummings.

Mary was born in Buffalo, N.Y., on April 26, 1924, and lived in Jamestown, and Lakeside, N.Y., until her early 20s. She married Lawrence Clayton Freer II while living in Europe, subsequently divorcing and returning to Jamestown. Soon she moved to St. Thomas, U.S. Virgin Islands. following her sister. Helen and her family. There she married Gardner Howland Meyer, with whom she moved to Arizona, in September 1973. Widowed in February 1978, Mary started her own interior design business and practiced the art and skill of design and decor in Scottsdale, for more than 20 years. Mary had joie de vivre.

She helped so many people in her life by lending a hand, offering shelter, and being a devoted daughter, mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, and friend. She adored entertaining and was a hostess and cook par excellence! Everyone was welcome in her home. Mary had an incredible sense of style, personal and professional, as well as an innate sense of beauty and aesthetics. She loved the ocean, gardening, and creating beautiful, restful spaces wherever she lived.

She possessed an inner brightness that never dimmed despite the ravages of profound dementia.

Heartfelt thanks to Mary’s longtime care-givers: Imelda Abrea, Esther Ruales, Genie Caracas, Eden Sibial and others. Gratitude to the staff of Hospice of the Valley (RNs: Nancy Morales, Millie, Shar and phone support); social workers: Linda Swan, Cynthia Gilliland and Angela Harris. Mary lived just 69 days shy of her 90th birthday. She had a rich, full life and imparted so many wonderful life lessons to her family, friends, and the world. Mary was a godly woman who lived the gospel in thought, word and deed with a deep-rooted sense of appreciation for all her blessings. Fare thee well!

If so moved, please make a contribution in Mary’s memory to any social service organization that supports child or animal welfare, education, assists the poor and needy, improves equality, peace and justice, or aids Alzheimer’s or dementia research.